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Children's tantrums – TDM consultation with Monica Reu: What can we do when a child screams and rolls on the floor when something doesn't work out? Are we doing the right thing if we tell a child to stroke other children instead of pushing them? Am I overreacting if I'm upset that my son was put in the corner at nursery?

Communicating with adults and the “NO” age – TDM consultation with Monica Reu: How do we help a child who is afraid or ashamed to say what they need? What could we do when we constantly get the answer NO from our child? How do we prepare a child for the arrival of a baby brother or sister?

Releasing stress in children – TDM consultation with Monica Reu: What do we do with a child who throws themselves on the floor crying “over nothing”? How do we calm a child who cries when we leave them at kindergarten? Should we call our 2-year-old or not when we travel abroad for work?

Going back on a punishment – TDM consultation with Monica Reu: How do we tell the difference between a child's needs and wants? Can we go back on a punishment? What is the best way to approach a child's “selective deafness”?

Sibling quarrels – TDM consultation with Monica Reu: How should we react when siblings argue all the time and each tries to get the parents on their side? What do we do when a child no longer wants to go to school after the teacher labelled them? What solution is there for a child who refuses to eat anywhere but in front of the TV?

Managing conflicts with little ones – TDM consultation with Monica Reu: What other solution do we have when the little one adapts very easily to punishments? What do we do when a child starts whining as soon as we refuse them something? Is a little one wanting to be only with their mother a sign of being spoilt or a cause for concern?

When a child throws away things they don't want – consultation with Monica Reu: In the Totul Despre Mame studio, Monica Reu advises a mother whose 3-year-old daughter throws away the things she doesn't want.

Obstacles to the natural desire to learn – Monica Reu: Monica Reu illustrates some of the ways in which school stifles children's natural desire to learn. Children are curious by nature, and parents can support them in their process of learning and exploring the world around them.

How much harm we do to ourselves when we see life as a competition, and what the alternatives are – interview with Monica Reu by Adevărul Live.

Connection through communication – interview with Monica Reu: Monica Reu was in Mediaș on 24 February 2016 for the “Connection through communication” conference. Before the event, she answered a few questions about the problems of the modern family.

Punishing children through rewards – Monica Reu: A one-minute meditation from Itsy Bitsy, in which Monica Reu tells us how we can remove rewards from our relationship with our children and what we can do next for better connection.

Our children's bosses – Monica Reu at Itsy Bitsy: However many benefits it may bring and however attractive the idea of being our children's boss may be, this tactic also has drawbacks, some of them with long-term effects.

Listening – the only way to reach understanding – Monica Reu: The greatest gift we can give our children, besides unconditional love, is listening. This simple and at the same time complicated act meets the child's need to be understood, heard, seen and accepted.

Does your child feel loved? – Monica Reu at Itsy Bitsy: Unconditional love in a parent's eyes looks different from unconditional love in a child's eyes. Monica Reu has a few suggestions for parents who want to show their child unconditional love and who, at the same time, fear this would mean letting the child do absolutely whatever they want.

Let go of guilt in your relationship with your child – Monica Reu at Itsy Bitsy: Regrets often arise after we have behaved towards our little ones in a way that is not in line with our own values. We blame ourselves and consider everything lost, which also affects our relationship with the child. Being honest with ourselves, and with our child, can bring a lot of healing.

Is it good to change the rules we set for children? – Monica Reu: Sometimes we realise that the limit we set for our child brings more disconnection than connection, and we change our minds about it. At the same time, we would like to drop it in a way that doesn't confuse the little one and meets their need for stability.

My child is violent. What do I do? – Monica Reu: What are little ones trying to tell us through violent behaviour? Once we decipher the message, we can look for a strategy that works for everyone.

What do we do when a child refuses to go to kindergarten? – Monica Reu: Children process overnight what happens to them during the day. Monica Reu gives advice to a mother whose little boy wakes up at night crying that he doesn't want to go to kindergarten any more.

My child doesn't want to share toys. – Monica Reu: Given that we are truly generous when we give of our own accord, not when we are forced to, how do we teach children to be generous?

A child's violence towards other children or parents – Monica Reu: Monica Reu offers a solution that could help parents whose children are violent with other children or even with family members.

Helping a child adapt to change – Monica Reu: Holidays, and with them a change of environment, are a source of stress for little ones. That is why we need to prepare them emotionally as well.

How we get over the death of a pet – Monica Reu: The death of a pet is a source of suffering and confusion for children. Here is how we can help them through this moment!

Behaviour problems in children – Monica Reu: One child refuses to use the potty, another is so curious that they break things or put themselves in danger, and a third doesn't respond to punishment. What could be done? Monica Reu has a few suggestions.

Conflicts between parents – Monica Reu: Conflicts between parents always influence the child, especially if the adults use the little one to blackmail each other. Nonviolent Communication helps everyone involved, if the aim is for everyone's needs to be met.

Needs and feelings in Nonviolent Communication – Monica Reu: Needs and wants can be confused very easily. But once we make the distinction, we can have more clarity and get in touch with our feelings more easily.

Our child, our teacher – Monica Reu: If we are open and willing to learn, the teacher will come. Sometimes we are greatly surprised when the teacher turns out to be a child.

Nonviolent Communication on Provocările Vieții, on Speranța TV: our colleagues Oana Răgălie and Lăcrămioara Ocunschi talk about what Nonviolent Communication means, about vulnerability, empathy and living in peace and harmony with ourselves and in our close relationships.


viitorulromaniei.ro:  Monica Reu, the first Romanian Nonviolent Communication trainer

cuibulberzelor.ro:  How to live with the doors of your soul wide open

totuldespremame.ro:  If you're mean, no child will play with you any more!

totuldespremame.ro:  Monica Reu opened the 2016 TDM Evenings

dailymom.ro/.ro:  Interview with Monica Reu

alinabuzatu.ro/.ro:  Interview with Ian Peatey

mamicileiubesc.ro:  How we build healthy relationships with our children

121.ro:  Interview with Monica Reu

SuntPărinte.ro:  Monica Reu: “Whatever happens, love is and remains.”

Itsy Bitsy – Meditations for Parents:  Monica Reu on empathy

Itsy Bitsy – Meditations for Parents:  Monica Reu on gratitude

Psychologies Magazine:  Conflicts Start from Needs

Psychologies Magazine:  What is Nonviolent Communication?

Dascăli.ro:  Monica Reu on Nonviolent Communication

Everything about mothers (Totul despre mame):  Interview with Monica Reu


International Center for Nonviolent Communication: The website of the international Center for Nonviolent Communication. This is where you can find information about the international certification process, NVC projects around the world and much more.

NVC Academy: If you want to learn Nonviolent Communication from home, this is the place you are looking for. Dozens of programmes and courses led by NVC trainers from all over the world.